Heartbreak’s a bitch. It’s like getting stabbed in the heart with a rusty spoon.

Men can have feelings, too, and getting broken up with taught me that those feelings run deep. And holy shit are they powerful.

The pain of being kicked to the curb by the person you love most can lead you to do some crazy things, like dangling yourself off a 9th floor balcony.

But pain is also a great teacher. It makes you aware of certain qualities about yourself that you hadn’t noticed or owned up to before. …

One of the toughest problems you face when you’re in a relationship is choosing between chasing your dreams and chasing the person of your dreams. That and deciding who’s cleaning the cat’s litter box.

When you fall truly, madly, deeply in love with someone, they easily become your world.

You reach a point where you’d be willing to risk everything to keep them in your life. But I’m here to warn you.

Don’t do it.

Risk? Or Regret?

When I was a young, arrogant coward of a cook, I was once offered a job at the best restaurant in the city.

This was…

What if the point of life wasn’t to be happy but to suffer?

(WARNING: If you’re someone who’s hellbent on happiness, you definitely won’t find it here.)

There’s a reason why the writers of the Declaration of Independence wrote that every person should be allowed the “pursuit of happiness” and not happiness itself.

No one is entitled to happiness. You’re not born into this world deserving of a happy life. You just get the option of chasing after it.

That’s because happiness isn’t some final form. Happiness comes in small doses that tease you away from your natural state of…

Rejection is more difficult to handle than a car without a steering wheel.

Much like in Soviet Russia, you don’t handle rejection. Rejection handles you. Да?

So what can you do?

You can’t force others NOT to reject you. That’s a natural part of life. But you can teach yourself not to have any expectations. You can look at rejection as a friend and not a foe.

Learning to deal with rejection starts with reshaping the way you think about getting rejected.

Here’s what I mean.

Focus on what you give, not what you get

You don’t have to worry about being rejected if you stop caring about getting…

Getting expelled from high school isn’t your typical coming-of-age story.

Halfway through 9th grade, my friends and I got in some serious doo-doo for stealing from other students. Not just lunch money. I’m talking wallets and iPods and even a laptop.

Looking back, I’m pretty fucking lucky that I didn’t end up as some dude’s girlfriend in a juvenile detention center.

But getting kicked out of school taught me that fitting into a group isn’t such a great thing to aim for. Because when you try too hard to fit in, you wind up forgetting who you are.

Once you start, it’s hard to stop

The pressure…

‘Do you actually know how to ride?’

That’s what Sergei asked me while I struggled to get on his old mountain bike he was selling. After nearly wiping out on the test ride, I handed him $300 and went off to buy myself an insulated cooler bag.

Pretty much like any new experience, I was far from decent when I first started delivering food on a bike. I didn’t know what the best way was to change gears. I wasn’t familiar with all the bike-friendly streets. …

If there’s one thing I’ve taken away from business school, it’s how to write more effectively. And also the fact that tax accounting is hella boring.

People may think you have to be Siri’s sibling to be able to write appropriately in business.

But just because you’re writing about ‘customer lifetime value’ doesn’t mean you can’t apply certain aspects of a style to all the other things you write.

Here are some tips I’ve learned about business writing to give a little stimulus package to your next draft.

Bottom Line On Top

The most important business writing principle I continue to use is to…

There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy.

—Friedrich Nietzsche

Experience trumps theory. Actions speak louder than words.

You’ve heard this repeated again and again more times than you can count in your lifetime.

And yet, we’re often so paralyzed by our thoughts about what we should do that we end up doing nothing. Or even worse, we blindly follow what other people think we should do and wake up ten years later doing things we don’t really want to do.

Maybe we’re better off not thinking so much and just doing whatever feels right. …